Lily Burk 1992 - 2009
There is nothing more unsettling and haunting in human experience than the death of a child. The recent murder of 17 year old Lily Burk was reported to me by my son Miro, who was her school classmate up through the 6th grade. It has gripped me since I heard the news when I arrived back in Los Angeles for a brief stop home last week, before returning to my job here in Melbourne.
Elsa and I remembered Lily's funny, smart and sophisticated 6th grade graduation speech to her class - she was a unique personality whose wit and style set her apart from her classmates. The tragic circumstances of her untimely murder at the hands of a mentally-disturbed man have also made her a news story, and no less than James Ellroy wrote a very passionate and poetic eulogy for her which was published here in Newsweek.
Her death also brought back to me my own experiences with young death.
I think the first time I was aware of it was when a boy named Hippolito Vega was killed in a gang-related murder while I was a student at our neighborhood public school in Chicago. It was rumored that he had been beaten to death in the schoolyard with a baseball bat, which was a vivid, nightmare-inducing image to carry around as a second or third grader.
As a 17 year old junior in high school, another tragic event claimed the lives of several people including two young men from my school. Ellroy writes that "the dead claim the living through the imagined repetition of the horror they endured", and the events of that night have certainly repeated themselves in my imagination over the years.
It was a Friday night, and as it happened it was the night before our class was scheduled to take the dreaded SAT or scholastic aptitude test, a key rite of passage in American schools related to the college admission process. You'd think that most students would be home getting in some last minute cramming for the test, and perhaps most of them in my class were, but it was a Friday night after all, and we were teenagers, and I found myself waiting at home for some friends who had promised to come over and pick me up and join them in what we called cruisin' or joy-riding around as the young, recently licensed-to-drive teens that we were.
As is always the case when you are stuck waiting on someone else and anticipating the events to come, minutes pass like hours, but in this case hours did pass, and my friends did not show up, and did not respond to my calls in those days before personal cell phones. Finally, restless and curious I decided to go out driving myself and see if I could find them and hook up with them, sure that whatever they were doing was infinitely more interesting than whatever I was doing.
As I drove north down Lake Shore Drive at about 9 p.m. the traffic was really heavy and I gradually discerned that there was an accident ahead that was clogging things up. In one of those slow dawning moments of realization wherein your perception seems not lifelike but cinematographic and slowed down, I arrived upon the scene of a major collision of two cars. Fire trucks and police cars and ambulances were already there by the time I got close, and I could tell from the mangled smoldering wreckage that this was an extraordinarily catastrophic event.
But it wasn't until I caught a glimpse out of the corner of my eye of a person walking like a zombie by the side of the road, and in that instant recognized that person as one of the friends I had been waiting for at home, that the whole scene came into sharp focus at warp speed, and I had the sickening epiphany that one of the cars involved was their car, that one of the drivers involved was my friend, and that the bodies on the side of the road were what was left of my other two friends.
The coincidence of the timing of my arrival was surreal, and the chance events that lead to my having born witness to just this moment has haunted me over the years; as has the sudden loss of two young boys; as has the tragic death of an innocent person in another family involved in the crash. Things went on at my school that year, but they were never quite the same for any of us, and as teenagers we couldn't really begin to imagine how never-the-same they were and would forever be for the parents of the children who were killed in the accident - the imagined repetition of the horror they endured.
I imagine many of you have your own stories of being touched by tragedy and the sudden loss of young people close to you growing up. It is an inevitable part of life. But no less painful and unforgettable for being so common.
Our hearts go out to Lily's parents and family and friends. No one should have to endure what you have.
william

